Books can help. In my very first article here I mentioned that it was a book that helped me get on the right path to heal from burnout. That particular book did not talk about burnout, it did not tackle any mental health issue at all. Nonetheless, it was the perfect book to read, because it focused on finding inner happiness, and this is exactly what you should focus on if you want to heal from burnout or just in general stay positive.
We always think “when I reach my goal, I’ll be really happy.” “I’m going to be so happy when we get married.” “I’m going to be happy when I finish building my house.” Happiness, however, is not measured by things you obtain and it can also not depend on other people. True happiness comes from within.
If your happiness depends on the building of your house, what will happen if construction is paused due to covid? What will happen to that coveted happiness that is supposed to happen at your wedding if this highly anticipated event is postponed or even canceled?
Happiness is not a circumstance. If it depended on other people, that would place too much pressure on them now, wouldn’t it? “Dear wife, I will only be happy if you do this … , and if you wake up in a good mood today … bla bla bla …” Yeah right, poor wife, what a burden to bear. That is a lot of pressure on someone else …
“I will be happy when I find my man.” 😦 ⁉️ To me, that translates into dumping a huge responsibility for your happiness on this poor man that you have not even met yet …
Regardless of what other people do or what circumstances are, you cannot place your happiness into such fickle hands, because – as we all know – life happens …
We have to enjoy the ride, not wait to reach our destination to finally be happy. And so, to be truly happy, we have to be in charge. We cannot allow anyone to be in control of our happiness. Granted, that certain actions by loved ones make us happy, and that is wonderful; but in general, our happiness is our own choice and it always should be.
Finding inner happiness, though, is not always easy, especially when life throws those pesky little (or big) obstacles at us.
There are some ways to keep your happiness, by doing these simple things:
- Be grateful
- Focus your attention on things you can control
- Eat healthy
- Be true to yourself
- Don’t dwell in the past
And then, there are books that will help you find happiness. Two books I read and which I really recommend are the following, May Cause Miracles and Judgment Detox, both by Gabrielle Bernstein. I mentioned them in previous articles, and I repeat it, because these books are effective.
Not only does May Cause Miracles come with great, in depth explanations and real life examples, Gabrielle also adds daily assignments. You have to do these assignments for 40 days. They don’t take long, so you can always make time for them. I usually did them at the end of the day, or in the early evening.
One thing that also struck me in this book was Gabrielle’s honesty about herself.
Do the exercises work? Yes, you can expect changes if you do the assignments every day. Simple changes in our thinking and action can work miracles, and this is what Gabrielle aims for with May Cause Miracles.
The Judgment Detox is a six-step practice that will help you release the beliefs that hold you back from living your life. Kundalini yoga, tapping (the Emotional Freedom Technique), meditation, prayer, and metaphysical teachings are easily explained, so that you can apply them in your daily life.
Judgment, resentment, and resistance are negative energies that hold us back from living our lives. This book teaches you to let go of those feelings and make room for compassion, freedom, peace, and happiness.
If this sounds a little “out there” for you, let me tell you that years ago I used to be skeptical about such books as well … until I read May Cause Miracles … It fell into my hands at a time when I needed it.
The Universe Has Your Back is a third book I bought by the same author, and this one shows you how to turn difficult experiences into learning and how you can heal from them. You can ride your energy and inner power to find strenght when you are down, and release the blocks that keep us from happiness, security, and clear direction. Find safety in the face of uncertainty, and strength when you are down. This is another honest and powerful read, by Gabrielle Bernstein.
Another Great book is How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, by Dale Carnegie.
Do you know anyone who doesn’t worry? Have you sometimes thought that people who never fret seem a little irresponsible? But what if we didn’t have to worry? What is the point of worrying anyway? It doesn’t change anything and all you are doing is putting negative thoughts out there, besides making yourself sick with worry …
It isn’t easy to let go of worry, especially if you have a bad feeling about something. I can relate … I think that sometimes, though, we worry too much; and this book can help you see the thin line between worrying excessively or responsibly.
Man’s Search for Meaning, by Victor E. Frankl is another incredible read! I can’t think of anyone who hasn’t wondered “what’s my purpose in life?” “Why am I here?” I have asked myself this question several times. Some people never find the answer …
This book can show you how you can find your purpose, giving new meaning to life. Once you know your purpose, it opens up the power of positive thinking and lights up the path to inner happiness.
Victor E. Frankl survived the Nazi death camps. He lost his parents, brother, and pregnant wife … Based on his experience, Frankl says that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose.
This is a powerful book, definitely worth a read!
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl
Success Through a Positive, Mental Attitude, Napoleon Hill
Many of us are familiar with Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”, but here is another one that will promote a positive mental attitude as a key to personal success.
Our mind has two parts, the positive mental attitude and the negative mental attitude, and we get to choose which one we want to empower.
As Napoleon Hill states: “Your success, health, happiness, and wealth depend on how you make up your mind!”
Customer reviews rave about this book, and although it was written a long time ago, its principles still apply very much today in the 21st Century.
Do these books help? Yes, they definitely do, and it is OK to get books for help. Although we all know that positive thinking is what keeps us going and leads us to success – and success could be anything, besides money, it could also be achieving a goal, freeing yourself of bad thoughts, letting go of a terrible past, finding a better job, finding yourself, and so much more – it is not always easy to stay tuned to the positive mind.
We often tend to turn on the radio in the negative mind station, and it takes great effort to turn that button and find the radio wave for the positive mindset. This is where these books come in. They will help us find that radio wave with little to no interference.
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